Sue is a trusting soul. She is a bit on the naive side. She trusts people, to her personal chagrin too. I trust no one. That's not exactly true, I trust Glen, but even he I hold at bay often with my trust. I have decided in my old age that it's not fair to place absolute trust in another person. If you don't trust them absolutely, then should they chose to turn and stab you in the back, their fall and your feeling of betrayal will be considerably less. Not that I am waiting for Glen to stab me in the back, I just want to leave him the option to do so without me being utterly devistated should he chose that option.

Tonight loyalty came up briefly in Glen and mine's conversation. I let it slide out of him and then let it fall as he continued on in his conversation with me. It brought back someone sharing their opinion on how someone could stab you in the back who had claimed to love you so deeply and pledge their undying loyalty to you. Basically what she said was, maybe my idea of loyalty is different from some other people's idea of loyalty. I sat around for days after that trying to figure out how my idea of loyalty could differ from anyone else's idea of loyalty. I even looked it up in the dictionary, which of course confirmed my idea of what loyalty is/was.  I asked several people to define in their own opinions what loyalty was/is. I got basically the exact same interpretation as the dictionary and I believed loyalty to mean.

So I still don't get what she was saying about someone having a different idea of what being loyal really means. Like, you are either loyal or you aren't. When you are not loyal, you are being disloyal.  I am sure there are gray areas on that depending on how close you were/are to a certain person. But if someone has basically pledged themselves as your true and dear best friend, then I personally expect a certain amount of loyalty from them.

Maybe I am wrong, maybe I am old fashion. Maybe loyalty has a new spin on it that I am missing these days. Maybe loyalty now means that you stick by that person you have pledged your undying friendship to through thick and thin until something or someone else comes along, or an opportunity to advance (financially, politically, socially, whatever) comes along. I don't know, I am not much about keeping up with trends anymore. Like I am still trying to figure out why anyone gives a rat's ass about Lindsey Lohan or Paris Hilton or even who they are and why they are news. I guess I really am just getting old. After all, orange is the new blue (or at least it was 4 years ago) and I still don't get that one either.

<heavy sigh>

Ciao baby.....