The last couple of days it's been running through my mind about forgiveness and how on earth you can forgive someone who is actively fucking you over.
I am sincere in my quest for an answer here. Every time I think this thing is over with the Hobicht and the house mouse something more comes to light that she has done and said to attack and harm me in the way too recent past. Like yesterday is pretty recent. And yes Sweetheart, she's even been bad mouthing you all the way over in Hometown USA. So when you see her again, make sure you tell her you know she's talking shit about you back home to the folks.
So someone tell me how you forgive someone who actively is attempting to destroy you through slanderous and false remarks about you and your character? I am not joking, I seriously want to know. Why do I want to know? Well, because I was thinking that maybe if I just forgave her anyway, even though she has not asked to be forgiven and probably never will ask to be forgiven, maybe, just maybe it would at least help heal something in me. I can't do anything about her and her pathological illness, all I can do is try to heal me and go on with my life despite the shit she has done and continues to do to me. I just can't figure out how to forgive when the perpetrator is still attacking and hurting the victim.
Someone tell me how you forgive under those circumstances. Like if I was a Jew in a Nazi conscentration camp during WWII and I watched all these horrible atrocities happening to people all around me and to myself also, could I forgive the tormentors? I just don't know... my guess is I could not.
I have never been so used and abused by anyone in my life as I have been by her. How do I forgive an on going attack? How do I make her attacks not hurt so that the forgiveness is real and heart felt in myself?
Surely out of all you fine folk out there, someone knows some secret to genuine forgiveness of someone who continues to assault you and your family out of malicious spite.
Please help. Any and all suggestions will be greatly appreciated and considered.
Thank you.
2 comments:
being in 12 step recovery my sponsor told me pray for them for 2 weeks thats 14 days,pray that they get everything you want and more,at the end of two weeks,ask your Higher Power to remove the anger,and just let these folks do what they will,the only person you can change is you,to forgive is to go forth in this case with the understanding that this is a sick indiviual,and they just don't know how to be differnt,change the thinks you can you and your kid and your partner tanner.thats it.teach KK that sometimes people are not nice and say hurtful things,and that to be bigger than they are by not responding.
hope this helps
BE
In K.K.'s thoughts here, considering I identify more with the kid's at the moment. It's easy to tell the kid to ignore it and walk right past as if it doesn't hurt you. See if K.K. has any suggestions of her own on how to deal with it. The other thing is you could aways get K.K. to tell them she forgives them, as they have no clue what they are talking about to begin with and walk away. What most kids, and adults as well really dislike is to be forgiven, expecially if they don't think they've done anything wrong to begin with.
Thats just my two cents on the matter
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