The day Jerry Falwell died, Sue called me up about an hour after Glen and I saw the breaking news on CNN. I casually asked Sue if she had heard that Jerry Falwell had just died. She answered me with "Who's that?"

Now you have to understand that Sue is the least political person you will ever meet. While the rest of us good queers were busy fighting the Jerry Falwell and the Moral Majority in the 80's, Sue was busy doing everything but being politically aware. Part of that was because she was a teenager and young adult, but the other part (especially in the late 80's and early 90's) was because she was oblivious to almost everything that was happening around her in the world except for that which was directly in front of her face.

I like to think of Sue as "Every Man".  Every Man is oblivious to almost everything around them except for that which directly effects their day to day life. So like Sue, "Every Man" is out there thinking "Jerry Who?"

Finally in this brief conversation, Sue says "Oh yeah, the Hate Guy."

I thought she put it rather succinctly. The Hate Guy. Yes dear, the Hate Guy. His legacy put simply by someone who can barely remember him. Which is the majority of the population in this country.

On AOL that afternoon, they had those silly little multiple choice questions in their little blurp about Rev. Falwell. The question was, "What do you think Jerry Falwell will most be remembered by?" The questions were innocuously enough put, nothing that would piss any Fundies off anyway, but that whole question got me to thinking about legacies.

Sue, who is American "Every Man" as much as you can get said it best. He will be remembered for being the Hate Guy. That made me think hard about what my legacy would be. I decided that I wanted my legacy to be the Love Guy.

I fall dramatically short of being the Love Guy. So that means I have to work harder on being the Love Guy. The Unconditional Love Guy. So my meditation last night was about finding that place within me that is always the Love Guy. It's gonna take a lot of meditation to become the Love Guy I want to be. A real lot.

A legacy of love or a legacy of hate, which would you chose for yourself?